Have You Loved On Yourself Lately? Try a Boudoir Photoshoot!

Have you ever asked yourself if you really love you? I haven’t, but in the last year, I’ve taken a deep dive into self-discovery and healing. I’ve experienced so many things in my short life that have led me to this point. As I was casually scrolling on TikTok a few months ago, I saw a lady sharing her story about coming to terms with the fact that she didn’t love herself because if she did, she wouldn’t treat herself the way that she does. That post hit home on so many levels. I started questioning myself, asking myself, “If I really loved myself like I loved everyone else, wouldn’t I treat myself better?”

I am determined to make my mental and physical health a priority.

2023 is all about loving myself correctly! I am learning to step out of my comfort zone and go for it. From a very young age, I struggled with my weight. I was always known as the “big girl.” I was told to cover up and that I couldn’t wear the same clothes as other girls my age. It always made me feel like something was wrong with me and my body.

In 2011, I underwent a major spinal surgery that left me with a scar along my back, and for an extra touch of razzle-dazzle, I got my first set of stretch marks. Talk about a blow to the self-esteem department! I used to search for ways that I could cover up my scar and dreamed of the day that I would be able to hide mine. It wasn’t until I was introduced to this amazing young woman that taught me that there is life after surgery and it’s okay to embrace my scar.

After three babies and going through ups and down with my weight, my body has changed so much. I had to get honest with myself - if I never lose or gain another pound, I need to be happy with what I see in the mirror: stretch marks, rolls, cellulite, the whole package. 

Birthdays are a big deal for me, and this year I struggled with finding my “big” thing or gift after stumbling upon a post from Nikki Morgan Photography announcing her mini boudoir sessions; I instantly knew that it was for me. I have been a fan of her boudoir work for a few years now, but I was so afraid that it wasn’t for me. I worried that I wouldn’t look as good as her other clients. I finally said YOLO, gifted myself a boudoir photo shoot for my birthday, and figured it would also make an excellent gift for our wedding anniversary!

I needed to see myself in a new light. I needed to see the beauty in myself again because I am worth it! My body deserves to be loved in every season.  I decided to step out and go for it to honor me and celebrate my body at this size. To my plus-size girlies that think boudoir photography isn’t for us - it is. Our bodies deserve to take up space!

Nikki was fantastic and truly helped to ease my fears. I can’t imagine doing this with a better person. She allowed me to feel comfortable and confident! This experience changed how I saw myself, and my husband loved how the images turned out. For once, I was able to see myself through his eyes.

Check out more of Nikki’s work below!

What is boudoir photography?


To me, boudoir photography is what you make it. Whether you’re more of a pinup-style girl or want to pull out the lingerie, there is a place for you. The word boudoir derives from a French word that means a woman’s private salon. Boudoir photos are usually taken in a private setting and designed just for women, but depending on the photographer, they may be open to working with couples.

Boudoir photography can get a bad rap for being explicit or too spicy, but I think it’s all about how YOU view yourself and the intention behind the photos. Every woman is beautiful and deserves to feel that way. It’s an empowering experience.

 

If you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone and see how beautiful you truly are, I highly suggest booking a session today!  Whether you’re celebrating a birthday, getting married, or want something just for you – a boudoir session needs to be on the list! 

 

Friendly reminder - your body is already perfect! 

The Best Zara Perfume Dupes

zara perfumes

I purchased all of these fragrances online via the Zara website. Occasionally they update their fragrances so I did not link them.

I have become obsessed with perfumes lately -  but I’m okay with it. I’ve heard all of the Tiktok girlies talking about Zara perfumes, and at that price point of under $30 for 3.4 oz, I knew I had to see what all the fuss was about. So far, I’ve bought eight perfumes - yikes and have another pending stock!


So what’s a dupe perfume? A dupe perfume is a fragrance for half the price of the designer or name brand fragrance. Sometimes, you’ll hear them called inspired fragrances, and the brand will list which perfume they took inspiration from. It’s honestly a hit or miss sometimes, but you have to decide what’s important to you, i.e., price, longevity, or brand name.


Apple Juice - Chanel Chance Eau Tendre


Apple Juice is a light and refreshing scent, perfect for the springtime! The fragrance quickly turns into a skin scent after 1-2 hours but with layering and reapplying, you can enjoy this fragrance all day. 


*I have never smelled Chanel Chance Eau Tendre to know if it’s 100% dupe, but it gets a lot of love in the fragrance community.





Gardenia - YSL Black Opium 




At first, I did not think this was a dupe at all. I was upset when I bought it because I wanted to smell the coffee and vanilla notes in this fragrance, and I just didn’t smell them. I had to revisit this fragrance after a few weeks, and my nose changed completely, it doesn’t smell like Black Opium at first spray, but the dry down is the same. I would recommend purchasing a travel size of YSL Black Opium to have the best of both worlds and use them together. 





Femme - Dior Hypnotic Poison 


Femme is very soft, feminine, and sweet with hints of vanilla; while it lacks longevity, you can easily decant this fragrance and carry a travel atomizer for touch-ups! 



Orchid - Victoria's Secret Bombshell 



Light and floral, this fragrance is beautiful but lacks longevity and, on my skin, quickly faded.

Red Vanilla - Lancome La Vie Est Belle

Red Vanilla is a great dupe - at initial spray, you wouldn’t think these fragrances smell anything alike, but the dry down is spot on but a tad lighter. On the skin, it lasts about 4 hours, one of the best I’ve tried so far. 

Tropical Boost - Marc Jacobs Perfect 

Save your money and buy the dupe - Tropical Boost is spot on for Perfect. They smell exactly alike and even last for similarly. I couldn’t tell the difference in longevity for either, I highly recommend saving your money unless you want the pretty bottle. 



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Giving Yourself A Personal Spruce-Up Before Summertime

The spring is now here, with the summer sure to follow it. This means that many of us are looking forward to vacation time, to going out and enjoying time in a range of bars, to inviting people around our house, and to exploring like never before.

The last two years have been tough for many, but now most of us have the opportunity to get out there and enjoy ourselves like never before, once again grateful for the chance to do so. One thing worth considering, then, is how useful a personal spruce-up can be before summertime. You’d be forgiven for becoming a little lethargic in the last two years, as unprecedented times were upon us.

Now can be a great time to indulge, to focus on our beauty, fashion and fitness, and to think about how we want to live our lives from now into the future. But unlikely our vehicles, it can be hard to just “roll into the shop” and expect a full service. We need to tackle this from very many angles, and it’s a totally self-directed effort in regard to our own person.

In this post, we’ll discuss how exactly to make the most of that:

Dental & Skincare

Teeth whitening can help your perfect smile look that little more inviting, and can help you feel more confident in grinning ear to ear in photos and at special events. Caring for our skin can also be a fantastic means of beaming and feeling radiant, be that investing in an exfoliant pack, trying new moisturizers, or even trying appropriate aloe-vera enriched scar treatment. The more you care for yourself, the more you define yourself as someone who deserves to be cared for.


Five Essential Wardrobe Staples

It can be nice to pick up essential wardrobe staples you might need to reinforce your clothing set for the new season. Sticking to five great investments that you can balance other outfits around might seem like an artificial number, but it really can be a good starting point. For instance, you might opt for two new pairs of shoes, a summer’s coat, some accessories, and perhaps a smart casual dress you can wear should a formal event come along. This way, you can start thinking about your summer style without having to spend thousands in a single wardrobe upgrade.

Spa & Massages

A good way to say goodbye to the prior season and welcome the new one is to dissolve your stress and feel like a new person. This can be achieved by booking an excellent massage and spa day, where perhaps you go with a friend to truly pamper yourself. This day might involve casual swimming, time in a jacuzzi and a sauna, and then spending time having your back massaged by a trained professional in a safe environment, with pleasant smells and sounds coming your way. Odds are, you’ll leave that environment feel like ten times the person you were before, and this energy can help bound you into the new season.

With this advice, you’re certain to give yourself the best personal spruce-up before summertime.

Selfcare Moment With Brown Girl Jane

Life has been hitting me hard, I’ve put myself on the back burner, and finding time for self-care has been nonexistent but in 2022 I’ve decided things have got to change. Taking care of myself physically and mentally needs to be a priority. In 2021, I decided to get back into therapy and that’s been a godsend. I’ve also challenged myself with learning how to take better care of myself and being intentional with self-care moments.

This month I’ve been really into candles. I enjoy candles that offer great projection and provide me with a mood boost! I decided to splurge for my birthday (hello, 31) and purchased a few items from Brown Girl Jane. Brown Girl Jane has branded itself as a Mood-Boosting Fragrance company that offers products for your well-being; anti-stress fragrances rooted in science! 

Casablanca Eau de Parfum


I’ve seen this fragrance everywhere and figured it would be a safe blind buy out of their Wanderlust Collection and indeed it was!  I’m a huge gourmand fragrance lover and the notes of marshmallow, vanilla orchid, and glowing amber intrigued me. On the first spray, it reminded me of something very familiar. I knew I had smelled similar notes before but not the same. It sits on top of the skin for the first hour or two and nicely dries down to become a skin scent. Naturally, I would be opposed to skin scents but this one works. I get whiffs of this fragrance throughout the day and it’s beautiful! It reminds me to slow down and take a deep breath! 

Top Notes: Cardamom, Marshmallow, Incense

Mid Notes: Saffron, Soft Suede, Vanilla Orchid

Base notes: Glowing Amber, Soft Musks, Sandalwood



Warm Cashmere Perfumed Candle 

65 Hour Burn Time

Coconut & Soy Wax Blend

8oz

This candle screams luxury! The packaging is so beautiful and the candle has a matte finish that gives it a sophisticated look. The scent is fresh, calming, and relaxing - perfect for creating a romantic mood!


NOTES

Top: Mandarin, Grapefruit, Clary Sage

Mid: Rose Buds, Musk, Freesia

Dry: Amber, Oakmoss, Orris


​Velvet Moon Perfumed Candle 

65 Hour Burn Time

Coconut & Soy Wax Blend

8oz

I could smell this candle before I open the box! It’s insanely yummy and uniquely infused with Italian Bergamot and Orange Blossom. This candle reminds me of a cool morning enjoying a cup of coffee on your balcony or a nice evening with your favorite wine and snacks! 


NOTES

Top: Italian Bergamot, Orange Essence, Sandalwood

Mid: Musk, Orange Blossom, Freesia

Dry: Amber, Cedarwood, Vanilla Bean


​I am very happy with my purchases from Brown Girl Jane, I can’t wait to see what they come up with next!